Positive Thinking Series #1: 5 tips to deal with negative situations in a better way

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Hi dear readers,

Thank you for visiting my blog (again)! Hope you folks are having a good time. Now today’s post will be about something different. I know I’ve been sharing a lot about fashion and beauty lately, which is still my major interest of course. But there’s something new in my life I want to share as well, maybe a new topic on my blog which I will talk about some more from now on: a new mindset. Since I’ve lost my baby, I somehow started a brand new way of thinking. Sometimes people go through heavy experiences and they change. Like finally they see things clearer. I think that happened to me…

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For years I have dealt with negative situations in a bad way. Because I felt like I had to, like I had to punish myself even more for the negativity in my life. Now that my baby’s gone, I finally understand that that’s exactly what I shouldn’t do. Instead of breaking myself down, I need to build myself up. Instead of focusing on my loss, I need to focus on what I still have. It’s ridiculous that it took me this long to realize that I have a choice. I can choose to see things in a positive way, a better way.

To spread these findings I came up with a brand new theme for my blog: The Positive Thinking Series.

For the first blogpost the topic will conclude some tips on how to deal with negative situations in a better way.

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Don’t put pressure on yourself if you don’t succeed right away, a new mindset takes time to settle but most importantly: you need to make the decision not to give in to negative thoughts anymore. It’s time you start seeing the good instead of the bad.

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[1] ACCEPT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU IN LIFE

It’s not all rainbows and sunshine, we all know that. Everyone gets his or her dose of misery along the road. Instead of fighting the bad, accept it. Surrender. Sometimes shit happens, and yes, it feels crappy. But with every bad situation, you get to learn. You’ll become stronger and when something like that happens again, you’ll know how to deal with it. Don’t compare your life with others, everyone has different things to learn and everyone will have other challenges to overcome. Don’t believe the “perfect image” social media tries to spread, behind every smile there are tears hidden for all different reasons.

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[2] APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE

When you can read this blogpost, you probably have a computer/tablet/smartphone. That means you have a bit of luxury already in your hands! Appreciate the fact that you have all the basics in life: a roof over your head, food, drinks, the possibility to shower every day, etc. People are sometimes too blind to see what they have, they always want more. You’ll never be happy if you keep longing for more stuff. Life’s not about materialism anyway. Another reminder: appreciate the people who support you and love you. They are what matters ❤ Don’t take things for granted and appreciate the small things that people do for you! They can’t be replaced.

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[3] FOCUS ON LOVE

People have never been as rich in life as today. While people show off their luxurious lives on Instagram, they totally don’t get the point of being alive. You can’t buy happiness. You never will! When you feel bad, you’ll maybe feel a tiny bit of joy when spoiling yourself with a new sweater or something but it won’t heal your wounds. It’s just a temporary feeling that will fade away in seconds and before you know it you’ll end up in a consumption cycle or a shopping addiction because you want to feel that joy over and over again. Only love can heal your wounds on the long term. Love for yourself, but also love from other human beings. Focus on the important relationships in your life, invest in them. Forget about the money, it’s not what life’s about.

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[4] DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM DRAMA

Some people intend to feed on drama. But drama won’t give you happiness, instead it will create problems that are unnecessary. At the end of the day, don’t we all want to have a peaceful life without stress and tension? When you hear there’s drama around you, at work or in your family, distance yourself. It’s the best way to protect your peaceful life. If it’s not important, it’s useless to get involved. It will only eat your energy, which you can better spend on important things.

 

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[5] SEE THINGS FROM ANOTHER POINT OF VIEW

There are situations which are very hard to see from a positive perspective, for instance mine: losing a child. But it’s always possible. I think that there’s a reason behind every happening in life, and losing my baby has helped me to realize that life’s too short to be sad. I want to enjoy every minute and I will fight again to bring a child to this world, I will never give up. That sounds a whole lot better than: why me, why did this happen to me, I miss him/her, … right? Of course I miss my baby, my pregnancy. But I know that my little miracle will always want the best for me, like I have loved him or her unlike anyone else ❤ Seeing things from another point of view will help you in accepting the negative situation. You can’t change what happened, but you can change how you deal with it 😉

You do have control over your thoughts, you are the boss!

So, all concluded, life’s too short for bad vibes. Enjoy every day, carpe diem! Feel free to share your tips for positive thinking in the comment form 🙂 Let’s be friends, follow us on social media 😀 Thank you for your attention and I’ll see you next time!
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Confidence: Being the best version of you

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Hi readers,

Today’s post will be about the one topic we all have to deal with: confidence. Y’all know, that one thing we always seem to fail in: believing in our own capacities. The famous Obama quote: “Yes we can!” can be a great shout out, but believing it is another story. Can you be confident?

I believe it’s about being the best version of you.

That’s the essential thought, basically. The question is: how? How can you be the best version of you? By taking care of yourself with love. Loving yourself and accepting yourself for who you are now, that’s just the start. You are fine how you are now, it’s not about getting a reward at the end of the road, you’re already getting that reward now. It’s time to stop pushing yourself to the limit. You’re okay. More than okay. And it’s just a matter of improving your capacities.


You have received this amazing body from God or whoever is behind our existence (whatever your beliefs are). Treat that body with kindness and respect. Do not let it starve to be skinny, do not let it down by being unhygienic and do not damage it in any way. You have this wonderful gift of nature, spoil it with love. Give yourself a body scrub, massage it with body cream, make it look beautiful. Feeling beautiful starts with a lovely me time moment in the bathroom. Not only the outside needs love, your body needs to have enough vitamins so you get energized during the day. Choose healthy alternatives and stay fit, pamper your stomach and skin with the best fruits and veggies you can find.

Every person has his own qualities. Maybe you’re really good at sports, or maybe you have a very creative mind. Don’t waste your talents, but develop your full potential – because you deserve to be heard and seen by others! Don’t you think great talents like Van Gogh had their moments of weakness? Moments when they thought they were worthless, moments that they thought their work wasn’t special at all. Of course! That’s just your insecurity speaking. Even when you think you failed, failure doesn’t equalize giving up. You still have a choice, and the right choice is to try again. When you do something with your heart, that’s what you’re supposed to do. Life’s all about ups and downs. If we didn’t have the downs, we wouldn’t appreciate or acknowledge the ups. The downs are just as necessary.

Find peace with how you look. This one’s typical for women (all though man can suffer from insecurities with their appearance too of course). But the pressure for us women is real. We are living in a world of Photoshop, botox and Kim Kardashians. Yes, that’s quite a challenge. We can try our hardest to look flawless, but what is perfection anyway? Will you ever stop trying to create this unreal image? Probably not. It’s something that will absorb you and it will never end. Make your boobs bigger and then you’ll start thinking your face needs a lift, and then you’ll think about having liposuction, and on and on. Instead of focusing on your “flaws”, focus on your qualities. We all have qualities that make us special. Maybe you have beautiful eyes, or beautiful hair. Name it. That’s what counts when you look in the mirror. Focus on those qualities and highlight them. If you have beautiful eyes, you might as well try a smokey eye to make them pop out even more. Invest in beauty products that fit your skin and body type. Invest in clothing that flatters your figure.

Being happy with who you are starts with embracing what makes you different from others instead of trying to be like the others.

Want to feel inspired to do the same? Stay tuned on my Instagram @outfitvandedagblog, which serves as an inspirational board for all ladies to stay true to who you are and be the BEST you! It ain’t impossible at all!

How are you dealing with self confidence? Let’s support each other, share your tips in the comment box below.